Wednesday, March 21, 2007

The Darker Side of Friendship

The best of friends can fall out. A friendship can go from wonderful to harmful. Sometimes, people we welcome into our lives as friends can cause us so much pain and grief - Thomas Hood 1835

The most fatal disease of friendship is gradual decay or decline; hourly increased by causes too slender for complaint and too numerous for removal. Those who are angry may be reconciled. Samuel Johnson- The Idler 1758

This is not a perfect world. We all have our faults, a common denominator in the human race. Paths do separate, some amicably, others in severe conflict.

As with any relationship, disagreements, misunderstanding, negligence, petty provocation and conflict can slowly erode the bonds that keep friends together. These can start as minor tiffs, but can slowly grow to tear apart friends beyond redemption.


What do you expect from a friend when you are at the giving end? How much of yourself, your time, your financial and other resources do you give to a friend? Is there a mutual give and take in the relationship? Ingratitude can be a major issue between friends. Remember, it has been said that of all the Virtues, gratitude has the shortest memory. Do you expect a payback when you do your friend a favor?


Gossip is hurtful, damaging, unkind and at times it is far from the truth. Gossip is cheap talk, a cheap shot at a friend. How would you feel if you were the topic of a gossip? If you have nothing good or nice to say about anyone, zip it up. Gossip is a betrayal of trust between friends.


Codependent relationships are unhealthy, mentally, physically exhausting and exasperating, and spiritually undernourished. Some call co-dependency a relationship addiction, riddled with feelings of inadequacy, lack of fulfillment, strong need to be in control, no sense of boundaries and irrational. Codependent friends are always ready to reach out, at times at great sacrifice of their own personal needs. Some blame the world for all their problems, gets too absorbed with their own needs and at times force their points of view upon others. They fail to listen to their friends.

Sleeping or flirting with your partner

Flirting or sleeping with your partner is one of the most painful situations for a friend - to discover that the friend is sleeping with his/her partner. How can this happen? This is a betrayal of a sacred trust- a trust in the friendship. But this happens.

Wish I Could Undo The Hurt...
A heartfelt 'sorry' message... For your friend/ someone close.

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